Tom Peters has a magnificent article, “Simple.” Go read the article. It’s really beautiful. Don’t mistake simple for easy, but this is an easy read about the need for respect in winning the cooperation of whomever you’re dealing with:
“We were friendly and respectful whenever we met a Bedouin or farmer, often sharing tea with them in the middle of the open desert. Our behavior sent the clearest message: We cared more about the people of Ar Rutbah than did the Fedayeen.
Democracy’s underpinning ultimately is respect for the rights and collective wisdom of the governed.